Expert reveals why you should always look into someone's left eye (2024)
A neuroscientist has revealed an important tool she says is 'great for dating' - involving looking into someone's left eye when talking to them. Dr Tara Swart recently made an appearance on the popular Diary of a CEO podcast by Steven Bartlett to talk about stress and the power of the mind.
At the beginning of the chat the pair spoke about creating bonds and the tricks she'd recommend for people looking to make connections. Speaking to the entrepreneur, Dr Swart spoke about the use of eye contact - especially when it comes to the left eye.
In the pod, Dr Swart explained that looking at someone's left eye plays a vital role in bonding and creating emotional connections and has roots to back when we were babies.
Dr Swart started off her explanation by describing how when a baby is born, the one way it learns what emotions are is through eye contact with their mother. Dr Swart goes on to say that due to most people being right handed, they would hold their children with their left hand to keep their dominant hand free, thus when gazing at their child it would be their right eye staring into the left eye of the child.
She says that these interactions would go on to impact the amygdala, the part of your brain that is responsible for processing emotions, creating an 'emotional resonance loop'.
Speaking to Bartlett, Dr Swart said: "So, most people are right handed so they'll be holding their baby in their left arm so they can use their dominant hand to do stuff.
"So when you gaze at your baby, your right eye is looking at their left eye and then as that interaction from the optic nerve is going around the brain it's impacting the amygdala where emotions come from, and it's creating this emotional resonance loop that's part of how the mother and baby bond so that right eye to left eye contact is the most bonding eye contact you can have with someone.
"If I'm trying to build a bond with someone that's the statistically most likely one to create good resonance between you."
Wowed by her thesis, Bartlett asks if Dr Swart if she has been looking at his left eye from the moment she waked in the room to which she laughs at. Dr Swart explains that while she had waited for them to sit down before she began the process, the hugs and jokes they shared beforehand helped lower Bartlett's guard and work towards bonding.
Dr Swart also highlighted other tips for people to create emotional bonds. The brain expert pointed out appropriate physical like handshakes, hugs, or kisses on the cheek and laughing with someone as ways to create a sense of bonding and trust.
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Speaking to the entrepreneur, Dr Swart spoke about the use of eye contact - especially when it comes to the left eye. In the pod, Dr Swart explained that looking at someone's left eye plays a vital role in bonding and creating emotional connections and has roots to back when we were babies.
When we consciously make eye contact with a patient's left eye, we may be tapping into a deeper level of emotional connection, akin to the bond shared between a mother and child. This practice isn't just about seeing, but truly connecting and resonating on an emotional level.
Whatever eye you feel more comfortable doing so! Honestly, this typically isn't a problem unless you're very close to the person you're making eye contact with. NOW, if the person you're making eye contact with has an eye turn (i.e. lazy eye) it is polite to look at the eye that is looking straight ahead.
If you are talking to someone one-on-one (or looking at people within a group), choose a spot directly between or slightly above the listener's eyes. If this doesn't feel comfortable, try letting your eyes go slightly out of focus, which has the added benefit of softening and relaxing your gaze.
A study published in the Journal of Research and Personality in which two opposite sex strangers were asked to gaze into each other's eyes for two minutes found that this was enough in some cases to produce passionate feelings for each other.
And this will be the sense; Whatever that is which you love as you would your own right eye, if it offend you, that is, if it be an hindrance to your true happiness, cut it off and cast it from you. For if the right eye was not to be spared, it was superfluous to speak of the left.
Glancing to the left suggests that you are remembering facts or having visual thoughts. This is often a good way to check whether someone is telling you the truth. It can also mean that someone is having a conversation with themself internally or is rehearsing their next line.
In addition, many people consider eye contact to be a sign of trustworthiness. We are more likely to believe a person who's looking straight at us. On the other hand, not looking someone in the eye is often associated with lying.
First, look in the person's left eye for 1 second, then switch your gaze to their lips for 1.5 to 2 seconds.Finally, look in their right eye, completing a triangle. She said: "I can guarantee that if done with the right person at the right time they will literally be [stunned]. I've done this with people I've liked.
There's a common wives' tale that tries to help us out with this: It says, if you look into a person's left eye, it means you're connecting to their emotional side, because that's the side of the brain that processes emotion.
Partners often unintentionally avoid eye contact when their mind is somewhere else. Both accidental and conscious glances can indicate attraction. Intense eye contact signals a strong bond and attraction.
For starters, oxytocin and dopamine — the “love hormones” — have an effect on pupil size. Your brain gets a boost of these chemicals when you're sexually or romantically attracted to someone. This surge in hormones appears to make your pupils dilate. Dilation may also be related to the biological need to reproduce.
Intently staring can be a good thing and might mean that he likes what he sees. Research indicates that in many cases of prolonged eye contact, both parties are interested in each other or maybe aroused.
A dominant eye isn't always about one having better vision, but rather one leading better than the other because of preference. Your dominant eye is the one that provides slightly more input to the visual cortex of your brain and relays information more accurately, such as the location of objects.
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